When You Enter A Palace, Ask To Visit Their" Props" Room

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Dancing online: how to use visual chats for more effective online dating - craig gazed at susan sipping her latte. He had met her in a grocery store checkout line, and they' d immediately hit it off. so well, in fact that he' d suggested a" get acquainted" date at Starbucks. "I' m really glad you came, " he said, "I brought something that will help you get to know me better. " He removed his resume from its manila folder and handed it to her. She looked back with curious expectation.

It was packed with information about himself: his height, eye color, weight, level of education, future goals, career choice, hobbies, and likes and, sports dislikes in movies and music. - craig read it over quickly and compared it with his own. It sported an 8 x 10 glossy of himself leaning against his new Tundra. "Oh, this looks good! " she said and handed him hers. Yes, they seemed to be compatible in almost every way. What do you think? He glanced up at her. "Well this looks really good. Should we start dating? " She nodded.

PEOPLE DON' T DATE PAPER. - it looked like a very promising relationship. If this scenario doesn' t sound silly to you it does to me. So, why should it be any different when you' re searching for a mate online? Whoever heard of a real life relationship( except employment) beginning with people handing each other resumes? Why would it be any more effective in cyberspace to judge a person from a piece of paper, no matter how thorough the description of that person might be? If someone likes your profile they contact you if they think you' re compatible( and vice versa, of course) .

The traditional approach to online dating does exactly that: you post your picture and profile on a dating site, and search other profiles. - the essential element. Even a short written blurb doesn' t do it. The trouble is that even if we are really good at presenting ourselves in writing, we generally can' t get across one essential element, and that is OURSELVES. And that can make online dating a frustrating experience. Why? Usually we get very few" bites" , and the ones we do get are usually just not right.

Because a piece of paper just isn' t the real you, it' s something ABOUT you. - the person that is looking for you, may never come, the real you your way. You, your personality, that is, usually doesn' t come across. YOU WILL SEE A STRANGER... ACROSS A CROWDED ROOM. You ask around. In the real world, you may walk into a room, whether it' s a bar, a classroom, a dance floor, or a church fellowship hall and... see her/ him across the room. Does anybody know her?

Or you just walk up to her and introduce yourself, buy her a, shake her hand drink, and get her email address or telephone number. - can somebody introduce you? This is what works. Chatting allows you to begin talking with someone online in your own personal style. YOU NEED TO SEE THEM. The person you are chatting with immediately gets a feel for your personality.

Enter the two dimensional( and lately, the three dimensional chat) , which greatly increases your chance of actually getting to know somebody, and having them get to know you. - i' ve been chatting for some time now, yahoo chat, with msn chat, and icq, and have made a few friends online, but the trouble with these traditional chats is that you can' t actually see and interact with other people the way you would in real life. (some might argue about the cam, but that' s the subject of another article) . GETTING TO KNOW YOU - - THE VISUAL CHATROOM. The visual chat I am most familiar with is The Palace, http: //www. thepalace. com. Visual chatting has been around since 1999, but has never been fully utilized as an online dating tool. The Palace is actually a potentially infinite collection of" palaces" : online chat rooms set up on hosting servers by computer savvy members. The theme of the palace is usually consistent with the interests of the owner.

These" palaces" consist of a main entrance gate and many" rooms" , comprised of living rooms with fireplaces, bedrooms, outdoor scenes, dining rooms, etc and etc. - many are adult - only and may not be areas you wish to enter. You may choose to read either brief or long descriptions. A directory of palaces is located at the palace. com site. I recommend reading the full description before entering a palace. INSTALLING THE SOFTWARE.

With the palace software installed, you can click on the link found in the directory and find yourself in any palace you choose. - in order to install the software, click on the palace link, fill out the registration information, download and run it. When you run the software after installation, you will be given a default" avatar" . A unique identification number will be assigned to you. Your first avatar is a yellow" Happy Face" and your default identity will be" New Friend" . Think of a positive sounding name that describes who you are.

You' ll want to give yourself a new name. - when you enter a palace, ask to visit their" props" room. Try to pick one that looks as much like you as possible( or, at least, what you would like to look like) . There you can find an avatar that most suits you. DANCING ONLINE. You have entered a new world, where you just might find the special person you' ve been looking for. Be ready to have fun!

Soon, even though you may be 3000 miles apart, you can still" sit together" or actually" dance" with them online. - real life. From The Palace, it' s just one step to Yahoo Messenger, and, cam, if things work out.